與視障者相處常犯的11種錯誤( 11 Wrong Ways to Respond to My Blindness)

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您對視障朋友瞭解嗎?您常熱心但其實是幫錯忙?或想太多反而對視障朋友增加不必要的困擾嗎?國外網站mighty上分享了有關視障者的文章,行無礙特別邀請了社團好友協助翻譯,為大家摘要出這11個重點給大家參考~

譯者:吳鴻來 | 2016年3月4日 1:42

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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1.在我面前跟別人談論我,卻把我當空氣

1. Talking about/for me like I’m not there.

盲人只是看不見,不是不能說話,有問題請直接開口問

This is more of a scenario than a question, but it’s extremely hurtful. I am a person just like you, and I deserve to be treated as such. I am blind, but I can talk, and I need to be asked questions like if I need help, what I want to order at a restaurant and especially questions about my disability. Talking for me and about me like I’m not there is what you’d do to a pet or animal, but certainly not to another human being. It makes me feel less than human when people interact with me like this. You can avoid this by just asking me. Treat me like any other person. I can’t stress that enough.

 

2.「親愛的,你需要幫忙嗎?」

2.  Asking, “Hi honey, do you need help?”

陌生人不要隨便裝熟,可以直接問「你好,需要幫忙嗎?」

This question is usually asked by complete strangers, which is, well, strange. Honey, sweetie, dear and sweetheart are all words you would use with someone you have an affectionate relationship, a small child or an especially cute pet. Since I don’t have an affectionate relationship with most of the people who ask me this, it means you’re treating me like a small child. If you would talk to any other teenager like that, than go ahead, but I doubt that’s the case. Please just ask, “Hi, how are you? Do you need help?”

 

3.  在我拒絕協助時不尊重我

3. Not respecting me when I decline help.

拒絕就是不需要而已,我盡量獨立。千萬別表現出內心受傷的樣子,我會內疚。

When I decline help, it’s nothing personal, it’s just that I don’t need assistance at that time. So please respect that, go on about your day and don’t act wounded like a kicked puppy. I appreciate your offer, but when you act hurt after I decline, it makes me feel guilty for my independence. I’ve worked so hard to be as independent as I am, so please don’t take that away, and don’t make me feel guilty for it.

 

4.佔我便宜

4. Taking advantage of me.

假幫助之名,行性騷擾之實。

Yes, this has happened to me, but I’d rather not go into detail about the most embarrassing experience of my life. I’m thankful it only was an invasive touch, not something more severe, and that the guy was punished — but that does not make it OK! Under no condition is it ever acceptable to take advantage of a disabled person sexually and use the excuse that you were, “helping” me. Your unwelcome touch made me feel dirty, like something was taken from me. You saying that you were trying to help me makes it seem like I asked for it, like I needed it, like you were doing some kind of good, and worst of all, it made me hate my blindness for a long time. No one should hate part of themselves because of the actions of another. How to avoid this? Really, just don’t do it.

 

5.「喝飲料需要幫忙嗎?」

5. Asking, “Do you need help drinking that?”

真的沒必要

This was an isolated incident where a guy asked me if I needed help drinking my milk at school, and he proceeded to lift the carton to my face as if he were going to put the straw in my mouth and give me the milk like a mother gives a baby its bottle. I know he was probably trying to be nice and helpful, but there is no need for that.

 

6.一口氣問一堆關於視障的事

6. Asking 20 questions at once about blindness.

發問要有禮貌,而且應該多了解我的個性

This is when people barely know me, and every question they ask is about my blindness and nothing about who I am as a person. I don’t care if you have questions, but ask respectfully, and also try to get to know my personality and not just the blindness.

 

7.「你怎麼親吻別人?」

7. Asking, “How do you kiss someone?”

有些事情別開口問比較適合...其實就跟一般人一樣。

This is awkward, embarrassing and just weird. Please don’t try to pry into my personal life like that. Please, just don’t ask; some things are better left unsaid. If you really want to know, I haven’t done a lot of kissing in my life, but it’s just like any normal person.

 

8.「你怎麼睡覺?」

8. Asking, “How do you sleep?”

這問題很煩

OK, I only have one response to this: creepy.

 

9.「你開什麼車?」「你開車嗎?」

9. Asking, “What do you drive?” or “Do you drive?”

這問題太沒敏感度

The closest I come to driving is using my cane. This is just insensitive.

 

10.沒先出聲就把我往反方向拉的引導

10. Coming up unannounced and guiding me by pushing/pulling me in different directions.

陌生人這樣做真的會嚇到我。請先開口問,並讓我主動挽你的手臂(如果我同意)。

This genuinely scares me when strangers come up and guide me like this without my knowledge. Please give me space, ask if i need help. If I say yes, let me take your arm, and we will have no issues.

 

11.耍弄我

11. Playing tricks on me.

把快樂建築在別人的障礙上是不可接受的行為。

This is just plain unacceptable! Even in high school, I am asked how many fingers someone is holding up, or someone will tell me they’re someone else to see if I can guess who they really are and to try to trick me for  their own amusement. That is selfish and cruel! I am a person, not a circus act.

 

 

重點~~~~請把我當成一般人對待!!!

What to do instead: Treat me like any other normal person.

This covers everything in this article. Please, just treat me like anyone else. If  you don’t act like there is something wrong with me, and you give me a chance, I could be a good friend to you.To my friends and family who have stuck by me and who do accept me, I can’t thank you enough.

 

感謝 吳鴻來翻譯

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原文出處:  http://themighty.com/2015/11/11-wrong-ways-to-respond-to-my-blindness/

 

 

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